| > | | | | wives and husbands have been hurt by an addict} or |
| Many people are wondering what to do when they | | | | an alcoholic? Every person has multiple examples of |
| are afflicted with someone they love with drug and | | | | themselves being hurt or suffering from someone |
| alcohol addiction. They live horror stories that would | | | | who had a problem with drugs and/or alcohol. |
| be fiction in a movie but are actual facts in millions of | | | | One of the reasons of long term dependence is that |
| people lives. What can we do? Numerous family | | | | the individual was enabled by an individual. I am not |
| members are scared that if they do not give the | | | | trying to take blame off the shoulder of the addict}. |
| addicts what they want she or he may leave and | | | | He is using the drug. I am just trying to tell family |
| they will not see him again. Now where is the line? | | | | members and relatives that they do something about |
| Am I enabling him or her? Am I not being a good | | | | it. They just need to phone a expert who can guide |
| mom? The people that enables are individuals that do | | | | them in the right path. |
| not know what is going on in the abuser}’s | | | | There are two ways to get someone the treatment |
| head or they do not care. | | | | he will need. |
| An user} will take any opened doors to use drugs. | | | | First, family can do an intervention by themselves. In |
| They will try to stay at ease at the same time as | | | | typically needs a leader that will get the intervention |
| they are using drugs and alcohol. The dependence is | | | | coordinated with the rest of the family and also to |
| putting a lot of pressure on the addict}. Family | | | | keep the control of the events. There are a lot of |
| members have to put more pressure than the drug is | | | | prerequisites that has to be in place before the |
| putting on the individual. You probably have heard | | | | intervention is actually done. A person is also needed |
| statements such as: He is not ready, He has | | | | to lead the intervention when it is actually happening. |
| to hit rock bottom, and " I cannot take the | | | | Secondly, the family can hire a professional |
| decision for him. | | | | interventionist that will perform the intervention from |
| Let’s look at this in another point of view, if | | | | A to Z. Professional interventionist have success |
| your children are putting a pistol to their head. Would | | | | rates of 70 to 90 %. |
| you try to encourage him or her to not kill | | | | An intervention with suitable planning and carried out |
| themselves? Would you say that you cannot take | | | | properly will result many times in an abuser} agreeing |
| the decision for them or they are adults and there is | | | | to receive help. But you must admit the reality that |
| nothing you can do? This an excessive example but | | | | eventually the abuser} may for whatever reason} |
| what is the difference? The difference is one will | | | | say "NO". This scenario needs to be thought out in |
| take longer to kill himself but nevertheless the user} | | | | advance so that the family constantly moves to the |
| will almost certainly hurt a lot of individuals on their | | | | proverbial -plan B. |
| journey to hell. How many mothers, fathers, children, | | | | |