| While you are living with an alcoholic mother, it's | | | | an impact of your mother's drunken tirades where |
| totally normal for you to experience burning anger | | | | she had continually blamed you for her unhappiness. |
| and resentment. You have suffered her vindictive, | | | | Only your mother can control her own happiness. She |
| abusive behavior every time she's been drinking. You | | | | is the only one responsible for her own actions even |
| have had to take care of her when she has been | | | | if she is an alcoholic. |
| riding her alcohol abuse addiction roller-coaster. And | | | | Myth #3: If I try hard enough I can change her |
| how many times you have listen to her apologies and | | | | alcoholic addiction. |
| promises to be a better mother, a better person? | | | | Fact: You have ZERO control over her drinking |
| At times, your anger and resentment disappears into | | | | problem and you cannot change or fix your mother's |
| a grey numbness. It's a coping mechanism. You love | | | | addiction. |
| your mother. You don't want to abandon her but you | | | | Only your mother can fix herself. However, the great |
| don't want to continue the misery of living with an | | | | news is that you can absolutely control your own |
| alcoholic parent either. You don't know what else to | | | | reaction to your mother's alcoholic behaviour. Take |
| do and you feel like your sanity is slowly | | | | great care of your own well being. Protect your own |
| disintegrating. | | | | emotional, mental and spiritual health while you are |
| The first step towards being happy and whole again | | | | living with an alcoholic. Do not react to her abuse and |
| while you're living with an alcoholic mother is to | | | | do not rescue her. |
| identify the myths that you're living into. | | | | Myth #4: I do not need education about alcoholism. |
| Myth #1: I have to fix it. | | | | Fact: Although you have been living with an alcoholic |
| Fact: Your mother's alcohol abuse addiction is her | | | | for years it doesn't mean you know enough about |
| own problem and her own responsibility to take. Not | | | | the disease called Alcoholism. |
| yours. | | | | Alcoholism is a very complex disease. It is difficult to |
| When you react to your mother's alcoholic behaviour, | | | | deal with it due to the numerous physiological and |
| you allow her alcohol abuse addiction to control you. | | | | psychological factors that are deeply incorporated in |
| Focus on other things in your life instead of being so | | | | its development. Learn about alcoholism and the |
| consumed by your mother's alcoholic behaviour. | | | | strongest contributing factors to its development so |
| Stop rescuing her. Let her deal with the problems she | | | | you can help your alcoholic parent overcome her |
| creates while she's been drinking. Only interfere if she | | | | alcohol abuse addiction. |
| is going to hurt herself or hurt others. The more you | | | | Living with an alcoholic mother requires you to bust |
| try to fix the problems she creates due to her | | | | those myths so you can actually preserve yourself |
| alcohol abuse, the longer she stays being an alcoholic. | | | | and your sanity. Think about it, if you crumble as a |
| Myth #2: It's my fault that my mother is drinking. | | | | result of living with an alcoholic how is it going to |
| Fact: Your mother is an alcoholic because she has | | | | impact your mum and your personal future? Set |
| given in to the addictive power of alcohol. | | | | yourself free so you can really help yourself and your |
| Feeling guilty about your parent's alcoholic addiction is | | | | mum. |