Escorting Teens to Residential Facilities for Troubled Youth - Escort or Abduction? You Decide

Julia had been struggling to raise her son, Jonathan,She realized a complete stranger convinced her to
alone for several years following her divorce. Thereallow two men she had never met before into her
were months when she didn't know if she couldson's bedroom in the middle of the night. How did
make ends meet, but somehow things alwaysJonathan feel, she wondered? Like he was being
worked out. Jonathan was eight when his father,abducted? She could hear Jonathan's voice asking,
Mike, walked out of their lives. For the first several"Why would mom just stand there and watch two
years Julia and Jonathan were a team and had amen drag me off in handcuffs? What did I do that
very tight bond. Ron walked into Julia's life andwas so bad that they needed to do this to me?" Her
before long they were married. Though Jonathanheart broke.
was happy for his mom he couldn't help but feel aHer mind would not let her rest. She began to think
void and slipped into depression.about where he was going and that she had never
When Rob moved into their home tensions formed.had a chance to go visit the place. How could she do
Julia became pregnant and during her pregnancy theythis, send her son to a place she'd never visited to
discovered Jonathan's grades were slipping and hisbe with people she had never even met.
depresdsion was getting worse. Rob began toThe next day she received a call from the escort
pressure Julia, telling her he had heard of programscompany telling her things went well, he had reached
that would help Jonathan with his grades and hishis destination. Great, she thought, I will call my son
depression. Feeling pressure from Rob, Julia got onand hear from him that he's OK. To her dismay, she
the Internet and began researching programs forlearned very quickly that speaking to her son was
troubled teens. With so many websites to chooseout of the question. "But", she said, "no one ever said
from her head was spinning. They all promisedanything about me not being allowed to talk to my
wonderful results for her son.son." The lady on the other end of the line assured
She finally called an 800 number and found a calm,her Jonathan was alright and that she could even see
cool, and collected person on the other end. She washim smiling.
asked countless questions about Jonathan and wasBut rest assured Jonathan was not smiling. Instead he
told he was headed down the path of destruction.was taken into a room where he was strip searched,
The admissions counselor, Patty, assured her therebeaten for 30 minutes by three large men, and told
were wonderful programs for her son. Withinhe'd better learn quickly that they were in charge.
24-hours she received beautiful glossy brochures forJulia was told that in order to talk to her son he
programs inside and outside the US. Her intuition waswould have to advance to a higher level in the
telling her no, but the pressure from Rob and Pattyprogram. She was told in order for him to advance
was so great that she finally gave in. The baby wouldhe would have to attend and pass seminars, and so
be born within a month and so, as Patty said, timewould his parents. But she would be having a baby
was of the essence.soon, how could she attend a seminar hundreds of
The following day Patty called back. She said aftermiles from home, she thought?
reviewing the online questionnaire Julia had filled outHer head was spinning again. She called her friend,
she believed Jonathan was suicidal and if she did notStacey, and broke down. Once Stacey was able to
act quickly time could run out. Julia's head began tounderstand what had gone on, she told Julia she
spin. How could things go from her child's gradeswould do some research. It did not take long before
slipping to him being suicidal, just like that? She feltshe found countless news articles on the Internet
trapped in her situation and though her mother'swith allegations of abuse and neglect in the very
intuition again told her no, she agreed to sendprogram where Jonathan had been sent. Fearful Julia
Jonathan to a program 3,000 miles from home.would go into premature labor, she brought all of this
Patty told Julia she felt it would be best if Jonathaninformation to Rob, believing Rob would immediately
were transported there by a teen escort service.remove Jonathan for this abusive program. But Rob
Julia was adamant that she did not want himtold her to mind her own business. She, too, was
transported by strangers. Rob overheard thetorn and did not know what to do.
conversation and said he felt it would be best givenStacey waited until after the baby was born when
Julia's condition. She pleaded with him to takeshe finally approached Julia, showing her what she
Jonathan since she could not travel such a distancehad found. Julia was enraged that her best friend had
this late in her pregnancy. He refused, saying thekept this information from her. But, when Stacey told
timing was not good for him at work. Again feelingher she had brought this information to Rob and Rob
trapped, and again against her own intuition, shehad told her to mind her own business, she broke
agreed.down and wept and pleaded for her friend to help
Later that day she received a phone call from theher.
escort service. They informed her that due to theirJulia left her home and her life with Rob that night.
travel plans they would need to pick her child up atThough she knew it would be a struggle to raise two
3:00 a.m. She was outraged, saying she wanted himchildren alone, she knew she could not stay with a
picked up during the day. They told her that mostman who knowingly allowed her son to remain in an
children in her son's condition will resist and will notabusive facility thousands of miles from home. She
want to go. They told her it would put undue stressalso realized he had convinced her to send her son
not only on Jonathan but on the entire family. Sheaway because of his own selfishness, not because
was told they had years of experience dealing withhe was thinking of Jonathan's best interest.
children and assured her he would be fine. ThoughJulia took the baby to stay with her mother while
this did not sit well with her, she again reluctantlyshe and Stacey headed to the airport. They had read
agreed.stories on the Internet of parents who had difficulties
They faxed the forms, she signed them, and beforeretrieving their children from these facilities. In one
she knew it the arrangements had been made. Herstory, a child had been transported to another facility
son would be picked up the next night. The followingout of the country. As they read further, this mother
day was very difficult for her. As she tried to gotold how she was unaware she had signed a contract
through her day she could not help but feel she wasthat allowed her son to be taken out of the country.
making a huge mistake. She tried talking to RobJulia searched for her contract, a contract she had
about it but he said she was being overprotective ofnever fully read. The words jumped at her ... she had
her son and that this would be the best thing for himagreed the program could obtain a passport for her
and for them. He told her it would give them ason and could transport him to a facility outside the
chance to start their new family while JonathanUS. Her heart sunk as they rushed to pick him up.
received the help he needed.When they arrived they rented a car and asked for
That afternoon she took Jonathan out for an icedirections to the facility. They drove for what felt like
cream. She wanted so badly to tell her son what wasa lifetime. The sun began to go down and they were
about to happen but she remembered being told hestill not there. They had no idea the place was in such
would most likely run away. She held back the tearsa remote area. They stopped at a sheriff's office to
as she watched him eating his ice cream, longing forask for directions, since the ones they were given
the days when it was just her and Jonathan. Sheappeared to be incorrect. The sheriff suggested they
questioned herself over and over again, but ultimatelyrent a hotel room and wait until morning to pick up
felt she had no choice but to send him away.Jonathan. What they had read in one mother's story
That night she tucked him into bed. She went into hiswas happening to them. Julia insisted he give her
room many times before 3:00 a.m., watching himdirections. He refused and left the room. The Desk
sleep. Thoughts rushed through her head of wakingOfficer quietly walked over to Julia and slipped a
him up, getting in the car, and taking him away frompiece of paper in her hand and whispered for her to
it all. She felt torn between her relationship with herhurry. The look of fear in the officer's face made
son and her relationship with Rob.Julia realize that no matter how strong the urge to
She got no sleep at all that night. At 3:00 a.m., rightgrab her and give her a hug, she had better just
on time, there was a quiet knock at the door. Shewalk away and get her son.
was shocked to see two large men standing there,The directions looked promising as it was evident
not at all what she expected. They assured herthey were very close to the facility. As they drove
everything would be fine. They sat down with her atdown the long dirt road they saw a broken-down
the kitchen table, going over forms and telling her itsign and a small, dilapidated building. Nothing like the
would be best if she went into her bedroom whilepictures they had seen on the Internet. Where were
they woke Jonathan up and took him away. Howthe beautiful horses? The rushing stream? The forest
could she do this, she thought? Rob stood over herof trees? The fields of flowers? The numerous lakes
shoulder, assuring her everything would be alright. Herand ponds? All they could see was what looked like
hand shook as she wrote the $1,800 check.an old run-down farm.
Tears welled into her eyes as she was escorted toAs they approached the building their hearts raced in
her bedroom. She sobbed as she stood by her door,fear - fear that Jonathan would not be there. They
straining to hear what was going on. She heardentered the office area where they were greeted
Jonathan scream, then he was silent. What did thatby a stout woman asking what they wanted and
mean, she wondered? Was he reassured as theywhy they were there without an appointment. Julia
said he would be? Or did they do something to him.swallowed hard as she tried to speak. She said, "I'm
She couldn't take it any longer and opened the door.here to pick up my son." The woman told her that in
Just then she saw them - two large men, one smallorder to pick up her son she would have to call
child - she looked hard and realized her son was inahead of time and make arrangements. "Didn't you
handcuffs. His head turned and their eyes met. Sheread your contract?", the woman asked. "No!", Julia
ran to him, sobbing, but Rob pulled her away. Sheanswered, "and quite frankly that's part of the
was able to swipe her hand over his face as shereason I am here tonight. Just get me my son!"
yelled she was sorry and that she loved him.At this point they saw children walking in a straight
As quickly as they came they were gone. Julia hadline, their chins to their chests. When Julia realized the
never experienced pain like she experienced thatthird child in line was her son, she screamed,
night. No matter what Rob said, no words could calm"Jonathan, come here this instant!" Jonathan took one
her nerves. She feared something horrible wouldlook at his mother and ran as fast as he could.
happen to her son. She laid there all night thinkingBefore the receptionist had time to call for assistance
about what had transpired over the past few days.they were able to hustle him into their car and fled
She realized it was not her decision to send her sonfrom the area, never signing forms or retrieving his
away but rather it was Rob's persistent coercion andbelongings.
pressure. She felt a deep resentment toward him asOnce they were in the car Jonathan could not stop
he laid there sleeping, unaffected by the events thattalking. Julia later learned the children were not
had just gone on in their home. How could he be soallowed to speak but for a few moments each day.
insensitive, she thought. How could he do this toSadly, after they returned home he shut down and
them?would not talk. It took months of therapy before her
She thought about all the times she taught Jonathanson would even speak to her again. They are very
not to go with strangers. "Don't talk to strangers ..." ...slowly re-building their relationship.
"don't go with strangers ..."