Are You in a Toxic Relationship?

Some relationships can be toxic. Are you in a toxicthe things that they go through in their childhood,
relationship? How would you know? Read on forsometimes without knowing it. Others grew up
some of the signs of toxic relationship.believing that they do not deserve happiness. Some
- Your partner talks badly about you and worse, putsothers just like to be in control and take care of
you down in front of other peopleothers, including running other people's lives.
- Your partner says they love you, but their actionsSo how do you get out of a toxic relationship? First
tell otherwiseand foremost realise that you do have choices in this
- Your partner controls your life: reading your email ormatter. People who don't make any effort to get
being at places where you are, just to check up onout of such a relationship are those normally suffering
youfrom depression or have a low self esteem.
- Your partner makes you too dependent on themThe next step is to stand up for yourself. Most
that you cannot live without their constant helptimes, you have been conditioned to think that it's
- You have made changes to your dressing, yourentirely your fault. If you believe this, then it will be
mannerisms, your actions and thoughts just to pleasedifficult for you to come out of the relationship or
themset rules to heal the relationship.
- Your partner has emotionally or physically harmedThe good news is that you can break away from a
youtoxic relationship. For some people going through
Being around toxic people will make you ill. So how docounselling works. Others find working in therapy
people become entangled in a toxic relationship? Whygroups beneficial, and able to repair their relationship.
would anyone want that for themselves?What's important is for both the partners to make
There is a certain cycle to a toxic relationship. Firstan attempt at saving their relationship.
there is the honeymoon period, followed by the blowThe thing to remember is that you must be willing to
up and ended with reconciliation. Of course it justwalk away if things don't work out. If you cannot
doesn't stop there. No, the cycle begins again andwalk away, you'll never be able to heal. Once you
goes on and on.have decided that you can walk away, you can begin
The first time you meet your partner, you are drawnto assert your needs in that relationship. Use
into the honeymoon stage. Everything is nice andsentences like "I need your love", or "I need your
peachy. Normally, it's when you're too far into thesupport" and you'll have a better chance than simply
relationship that you begin to realise that you are in anagging.
toxic relationship. This makes it harder for you to getRemember, a happy healthy relationship is a two way
out.street. Both of you are responsible for the
What makes certain people toxic? One factor is thatrelationship to work. The power is in your hands.
they grew up in toxic homes. As such, they repeat